When it comes to Love, I believe we’ve been taught the wrong things.
Instead of cultivating a culture that embraces and leans into the twisted thrilling journey of Love, we’ve been taught how to judge it, limit it, control it, or give up on it before it even has a chance to bloom.
Loving others is indeed important, don’t get me wrong, but not at the expense of self.
We’ve been taught that in order to be valued we need another to desire us. Inherently leading us to believe we do not have any value on our own. We’ve been taught that loving others is more important than loving ourselves. “Loving others is indeed important, don’t get me wrong, but not at the expense of self.”
We give our Love away far too often and far too long to those undeserved. That act can scar our experience in partnership and confuse our understanding of true Love. That only leaves us empty, closed, fearful, numb, frustrated, or angry at our notion and experience of that type of Love. Over the next several weeks of entries, we will come to an intimate understanding of what I’ve distilled Love to be.
If you think about it, most of us were never taught how to truly Love or even what Love really is.
We are born perfect. However, every year we grow according to all of our experiences and move further and further away from our perfectly formed selves. We are told in order to fit in, to be successful, to have Love – you must do this, be that, earn this, have that – but none of THAT has anything to do with true Love and partnership.
If you think about it, most of us were never taught how to truly Love or even what Love really is.
How can we know Love if we can’t really recognize it?
Here’s the truth about perfect partners…partnerships don’t come perfectly made. They need to be cultivated in integrity, truth, patience, passion and belief. Perfect partnerships are developed through unconditional Love, mutual support, sharing of lessons learned. They need spiritual exploration of why they are purposed and a commitment to becoming and obtaining that purpose together. Remember, the person IS perfect.
We are all made perfectly…and then life happens. It’s the ups and downs and the baggage we collect that gets in the way and begins to mask and cover that perfection in a person.
