Have you fallen out of Love…with YOU?
Did you ever realize that it’s possible?
No one wants to admit that they’ve fallen out of love with themselves. But… from time to time we all know there has been a moment or few when love for self has lost its way.
Loss of self-love happens so gradually that we rarely recognize the dissolution of it. And while the signs show up differently for everyone, they generally include a gradual losing of sufficient time with self, uncertainty, misplaced focus, loss of motivation, comparison, and fractured self-esteem.
In this fast-paced lifestyle, it is highly common for people to put everrrrrrybody and everrrrrrrything else before their own needs. We grind hard, over schedule, max-out our own bandwidth, eat poorly, neglect or just flat out half-ass our workouts, and make excuse after excuse on why we just don’t have enough time to give ourselves the self-care needed to keep us functioning optimally and smiling often.
Believe people the first time that they show you who they are.
So, parts of us slip away and before you know it, we begin to struggle with happiness, fulfillment and purpose. All of these emotions and more show up and manifest in weight gain, exhaustion, freedom of expression, lack of creativity, anxiety, impatience, confidence…the list can go on and on right?
It stands to reason that when Self-Love is off balance so is your life, and symptoms that mimic low-self esteem can easily arise. Unfulfilling relationships, defensiveness, fear, depression, hypersensitivity, feeling unlovable and other consequences of low self-esteem make attracting and maintaining joy a challenge.
Psychologists have proven that when self-esteem is low, negatives have much more power over us than positives. We are motivated more by the desire to avoid pain than to experience joy. Hence, if we do not make the appropriate amount of time to nurture our-selves – our vitality, wellness, self-worth and lovability is significantly diminished.
How can you expect the universe, yet alone another person to love, honor and respect you when you consistently put your fundamental needs last or just don’t even recognize them?
We’ve all heard the famous Maya Angelou quote, “Believe people the first time that they show you who they are.” Now that statement doesn’t mean we don’t have the capacity to be more however, it is probably one of the most profound pieces of wisdom to be uttered by a human being about how we should pay attention to what people tell us about themselves without uttering a single word.
But what “we” are showing people about ourselves?
What is your self-care or lack thereof telling people about how you treat yourself and from that how they should treat you?
After all, the way we value ourselves governs the way we treat ourselves. It informs the choices we make, the people we spend time with and how we allow those people to treat us.
If you’ve fallen out of love with yourself or are struggling with the question of, have I? Don’t sweat it. The opportunity to practice and replenish the kind of love, Self-Love, you aspire to receive has arrived.