Summer is almost here and most of us are thinking about romantic love.

Let’s just get one thing straight…whether you’re in a relationship, looking for love, or happily flying solo, meaningfully filling YOUR love tank is only possible when you focus on loving yourself first! Let us repeat, LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!

So what does that really mean, love myself first?

Simple, it’s the foundation of what your love tank is made of. It’s knowing exactly what love looks like to you and doing the work to create space in your heart, spirit and life to call that type of love in. And guess what…we’re here to help jumpstart that process in your life.

No matter what your relationship status is, here’s a self love exercise below that will help you take the time you need to gift yourself more LOVE.

Step #1

Whip out your journal or a fresh notebook or iPad Note.

Take a moment to think about all the amazing sum of parts that make you, you!

Now, write a list of all those things you love about yourself. Be generous NOT critical. This is a love list not a judgement list.

List every curve, unique freckle, wit, every one of your awesome skillsets, creativity, etc. If you love it or like even one teeny tiny bit of it put it on the list!

Step #2

Take a look at your love list. As you go through the list notice if you feel any sensation or doubt surface in your body or minds eye, i.e. a pause or a butterfly in the stomach. Do not judge them, just simply take notice and write those emotions or sensations down in your journal at the moment they happen. It could be as you’re recalling the item on the list or as it surfaces in real time. 

NEXT – Ask yourself,  “Where do I feel the sensation of love most inside my body?”

Try to locate where the sensation of love lives and clearly identify it. Is it deeply in your spirit and heart or does it generate in the foremost process of your thoughts?

Does your body tingle in places as you become to present to these thoughts?

Patiently get present to where love lives in your body. Use this physical body feeling as a tuning fork. Keep coming back to this sensation as a way to get touch with the feeling of being deeply loved.

Yes, WE KNOW!!! More of that please! This feeling and being present to those sensations is what you want to create more of in your life!

Step #3

NOW…Take a pen and paper & finish these statements:

I sense ________________________________________________ right now after this exercise.

I need _____________________________________________________________________ in my life.

I deserve __________________________________________________________________ in my life.

I imagine __________________________________________________________________ in my life.

I want ______________________________________________________________________ in my life.

I will no longer accept _____________________________________________________ in my life.

I feel _______________________________________ as I completed the steps of this exercise.

Bonus Love Step:

Give yourself permission to treat yourself like your best lover by gifting yourself exactly what you need.

Share this self love exercise with someone who love if you found this beneficial to you.

Yup, that’s the required headline and tag the SEO and technical mechanics came up with here in our Live Limitlessly war room to get YOUR attention. Personally, I just want to help YOU achieve a limitless life you love and ultimately be your best self! It’s 2018, a new year and without a doubt your inbox, your social feeds and even family and friends are bombarding you with diet, fitness, financial and probably ten other “resolutions” to dive into for the new year. But let’s be honest, Radically Honest (more on that in a minute). If you had the framework, commitment, discipline or even the know how to build yourself into the best self you can be you wouldn’t need a resolution. Right? Right!

So why then is the service and guidance of a life coach probably the most underrated tool you can have in your “life tool shed”? I can go down a virtual laundry list of reasons why, but lets list just a handful and lightly touch on each. Before we do that though, let’s keep with Radical Honesty and understand the fact that we ALL need help in some form when it comes to being our best selves on our way to living the ultimate life we love and adore. Even yours truly needs support and reminders of when to use the tools I show my own clients. I forget. I get caught up in the moments of life that spawn all kinds of emotions and that is TOTALLY okay! Yup, we’re human! Newsflash, we are far, VERY FAR from perfect. I digress.

1. Achieve Your Best Self 

There is zero chance in this wonderfully complex universe that you yourself, can by yourself achieve your best self! Read that one more time. . .go ahead. I’ll wait for you. It doesn’t matter how amazingly “put together” you are, how successful by your measurement you are, no matter how elevated you believe you are you didn’t achieve and arrive in that space by yourself. You had a number of people there for you in your life shaping, influencing, guiding and mentoring you whether you were present to that or not. Now that we have established that, it is the number one reason to seek a life coach or in my case a Transformation Expert. We ALL have blind spots and we need an expert to help us uncover those the same way a trainer helps you achieve your best physical self in the gym.

2. Develop Perspective & Understand the Natural Surfacing of Anxiety

Uncovering blind spots in the setting of safety and trust will foster a level of empowerment that is like oxygen to fire. You cannot help but to walk out of every session with a sense of accomplishment and some level of personal understanding. Unlike therapy, transformation sessions are designed to aggressively rip open the proverbial box you have constructed around your life to expand and develop a life without boundaries. We focus on the now and the future with a look into our past to understand how these “boxes” or constructs of our lives were even built in the first place. Gaining this type of perspective literally puts the fuel in your rocket ship for blasting off into a limitless life!

3. Take Responsibility For Your Life

Once you have a level of awareness and perspective you have no choice but to take ownership of your now. What you do at every moment WILL influence your future. It’s pretty simple to be present to your choices and actions once you arrive to that understanding. But, just like any newly discovered tool or practice, it takes repetition to master and apply.

4. Strengthen Your Personal Foundation

Wouldn’t you love to be the rock and beacon of stability among your life circle? Well, moving through the exercises that help us achieve some of the above directly impacts your personal foundation and strengthens it! At Live Limitlessly I’ve actually created and crafted a curriculum that interconnects and prompts you to move into spaces giving you no choice but to elevate as a dynamic human being.

5. Deeply Explore Oneself With An Expert

It’s obvious to every person on the planet that some people are better skilled in certain vocations than others. That never defines us however. It is always possible to be, do and achieve ANYTHING! I truly believe this and again am walking, living proof of this. It is the sole reason I do what I do. However, we cannot achieve greatness in any pocket of our lives without guidance and direction from those whom are experts in their respective space. Want to know how to build the most beautiful log cabin? Seek out the best log cabin builders. Wanna climb mountains? Find the most qualified sherpa and mountaineer. You get my drift. Seeking out these experts takes you deeper into your chosen journey into the area. The same for personal mastery.

Scratching the surface of introspection and personal mastery is easy. The real work and growth comes in the depths and struggle in our commitment to our quest. So why not take into your own hands the opportunity and possibility to break through multiple life levels on your way to living the most amazing life filled with love, happiness and success?